“Men mess up and then we feel badly about it.” One of my best friends in graduate school used to say this.
As we swapped stories, too often this was a conclusion we came down to. Another said he was too good for the girl he was dating. Women wishing it was a small drawback and not an indication of something bigger.
" with those we're hooking up with or casually dating.
Here's the problem: Frances' first-date trick works perfectly, but most of us don't to the answer we get.
Raise your hand if you ever fudged the facts in your mind because you really wanted to see things through rose-colored glasses with a promising guy [raises hand! Well, the fudging-of-facts bit carries on throughout a relationship, sometimes keeping us committed to the wrong guy for months (or years).
There was a time in history when the word dating meant “courtship.” It was the formal process by which one proved their merit for a committed partnership.
Today, the word “dating” is the polite term for “sleeping with a person.” It doesn’t imply a future partnership, nor sexual exclusivity.